Keeping things interesting in the bedroom is sometimes a daunting task. Especially when you are introducing toys.
It’s totally normal to feel nervous or self-conscious, but there are some things that can help you break out of that headspace. Knowledge is power, and playing with the power dynamic in the sheets can be a lot of fun for all involved.
Using a strap on dildo, regardless of your gender or sexual preferences, is a great way to reinvigorate your sex life by incorporating new kinds of pleasure.
Read on to find out how to use a strap on dildo, and get some great advice about where to start!
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Do Some Prep
It’s best not to go into these kinds of things blind. Some prep work will give you an idea of what to expect going in.
That can be watching some examples of how to use a strap on, reading about some real-world experiences, and research the kind of strap on you want to use.
There are a lot of options out there, from size and shape to the material and construction of the harness, and it’s worth reading into them to find out what’s going to work for you.
How to Use a Strap On Dildo
Having an appendage strapped to your hips for the first time can be a bit unwieldy, and may not feel very intuitive when you come to use it in the bedroom.
Working out how to use a strap on dildo alone before you use it with your partner will help you to get more comfortable with it. The more comfortable you are with it outside the bedroom, the more confident you will be inside.
When it comes time to use your strap on with your partner, don’t be afraid to just use your hands to guide it to where you want it to go. As much as a strap on offers hands-free pleasure, it may not always do what you want it to.
Experiment with different positions. If you or your partner prefer to be on top, try using your strap on in that position first. Switch it up, try out new things. It’s all about finding what works best for both of you, and what gives you the most pleasure.
To that point, communicate! There is nothing to be gained from silently enduring something you don’t like. Speak to your partner, check in often to make sure they are enjoying what’s happening, and tell them how you’re feeling too.
When you’re making an attempt at spicing things up in the bedroom, it may be difficult to not feel a little (or a lot) self-conscious. This is where research, practice, and communication are super helpful.
These things will tell you that what feels good may not be the most aesthetic. When you stop worrying about that, both you and your partner will have a lot more fun.
Enjoy yourself
At the end of the day, both you and your partner are there to enjoy each other and to make each other feel good. The more pressure you put on sex, the less enjoyable it is for everyone.
Finding how to use a strap on dildo with your partner should be a joint experience, and a fun one.
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